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Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Dealing with Feeling Fearful

   365 times our loving Daddy God tells us not to fear. If you are counting, that is one time for every day of the year! Yet, many of us live in and from fear more than we would like.

   Some fears are understandable and appropriate. If you are being driven in a car at 120 miles per hour in a 25 mph zone, you should feel afraid. If someone is threatening you with a gun, you should feel afraid. If your child was supposed to be home at a certain time and he/she is eight hours late, you should feel afraid. But even in these situations, we can choose to trust God or not. God’s heart is certainly not for us to live from a place of fear all of the time.

   Then, there is sinful fear. This kind of fear is destructive and reveals itself as worry, anxiety, anger, silence, depression, control and more. This kind of fear is what Jesus died to free us from. First, because of our resurrection with Christ, we are not fearful people in our identity in Christ. Second and foremost, our God is faithful and can be trusted. Philippians 4:6-7 tells us this is the kind of fear He tells us to pray about until we experience Him as our peace.

   I remember sharing Psalm 56:3 with a pastor friend of mine who was feeling guilty because he felt afraid his child would be born with cystic fibrosis. He and his wife both had the gene for that mortal disease but did not know it until after they had conceived. When I shared this scripture, he immediately felt relieved. He experienced such a freedom from his false guilt, that he planned to share it with his congregation the next week. It says, “When I am afraid I will put my trust in You.”

   You see, you may feel afraid even when you are trusting God. Wouldn’t it be great if when we trusted God, our feelings of fear would immediately go away? Sometimes they do and sometimes they don’t.

   Many years ago, I was counseling a person who had extreme anxiety. This person knew who they were in Christ and believed it. This person knew that Christ was their Life and believed it. Yet, the anxiety would not stop. After we prayed about it for a while, I sensed that this anxiety might be from a brain chemistry imbalance. They went to a good doctor who prescribed an anti-anxiety medication. A few weeks later, this person returned to thank me saying they were finally free from years of anxiety and could now experience Christ as their Life in a deeper way.

   If you are feeling fearful, you may want to also ask God if there is anything He wants you to do that would alleviate your fear. One of my sons felt incredible anxiety one semester in college though he was relying on Christ in him and praying about it. As we talked, it turns out that his anxiety was a result of feeling overwhelmed by all of his school work. I encouraged him to sit down and write down all that he had to do, prioritize it according to due dates and then use his calendar to schedule his work. In two days, his anxiety was gone.

   Pray and ask God to make clear to you what type of fear you are experiencing and what He wants you to do/believe about it.

Live Free In Christ,


Mark Maulding, President and Founder


www.GraceLifeInternational.com
All Content Copyright © 2013 Mark Maulding

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

The Mauldings' April God Stories


The following is a quote from a 17 year old girl at my recent F4T Conference. “Now I understand Biblically why most of the people in my generation consider God a joke.  Their parents did not understand the gospel so they could not let Christ live it out through them in their homes.  That’s why their kids have turned away from God.  That’s why we are being called the ‘hopeless’ generation.”    Wow!  How insightful she was.  Her words impassion me more to keep sharing the complete gospel with Christians.  We need to show the next generation that Jesus in us is real and does transform us!  Thank you for partnering with me financially and in prayer to make this happen!

Prayer Requests

My family and I need $1759 per month in new support.  Would you pray about giving towards this by increasing your monthly support? Or maybe you could give a one-time gift?  Maybe you could give part of your tax-refund.  You can give securely online at www.GraceLifeInternational.com under About Us, Our Staff then click Mark Maulding.

Pray for a F4T(Foundation4Transformtion) Conference I am leading in Spartanburg, SC April 25-27.  Contact person is Rob Nelson at rrnelson22@yahoo.com.

Pray for Men’s Only Grace Life Conference I am leading in our office, May 10-11. Contact Kathy Wilkinson in our office at Kathy@GraceLifeInternational.com or 704-522-9026.

               
Family Matters (for Praise and Prayer)
 
Ellen and I just ran our first 5K together.  It was a blast and my first race ever.  I am shocked that I placed 3 in my age group for men and won a medal!  I was just glad I did not quit running before the end! 


Ben (23) received a summer internship in Charleston at the Piggly Wiggly Corporate Office.  God also provided a car for him through the generosity of some friends who had be talking about wanting to give one of their cars away when they received my prayer request!  Thank you for praying for him.

Andrew (24) was not approved to be a research assistant next fall, his last semester at UPR.  Pray for him to find a teaching job for next fall at one of the Christian schools so he can pay for school.

Bekah (22) is finishing up her sophomore semester at USC.  We talked with the Director of the Carolina Life Program recently and they are working to get her two jobs for the fall semester.  Pray our monthly missionary support comes in so we can send her back for her junior year.

Christopher (19) is looking for full-time employment since he is not returning to college.  Pray he finds something close by since he has no car.



Live Free In Christ, Mark Maulding, President and Founder www.GraceLifeInternational.com All Content Copyright © 2013 Mark Maulding

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Dealing with Feeling Angry



     The tragic Boston Marathon bombing this week elicited righteous anger all across this country. And rightfully so. This kind of anger is not sinful in and of itself. Ephesians 4:26 says, "Be angry and sin not." NASB When someone has committed an injustice against another person or even us, this is sinful. When someone is raped, we should have righteous anger. When someone is sexually abused, we should have righteous anger. When there is human trafficking, we should have righteous anger. When someone tries to control us, we may feel righteous anger. You get the idea. When we have righteous anger, we need to pray, ask Christ to live through us and respond as God leads. However, our response to righteous anger will never lead us to act sinfully in a way that displeases the Lord.

  Another kind of anger is sinful anger. This anger has many faces such as bitterness, resentment, rage, unforgiveness, the silent treatment, all kinds of abuse, unresolved fear and more. A 23 year old man I've known since he was a baby has been in anger management but has never dealt with his inner anger. He is currently incarcerated because all of the counseling he has been under has never gotten to the root of his problem. You see, anger arising from our past must be quelled by facing our anger and forgiving those we are angry with including ourselves. You would be amazed at how many people we counsel at Grace Life International who have self-hatred. Ephesians 4:31-32 says, "Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice forgiving one another just as God in Christ has forgiven us." NASB

  Forgiveness is something most Christians know they need to do but few understand how to do it Biblically, such that, it really heals their hearts. It is probably one of the greatest hindrances we help people work through so they can experience Christ in them as their Life. Time does not permit me to write about it in this space, but I will say that when we forgive Biblically, we must tell God how each person and event made us feel, then tell Him we forgive that person though usually they do not deserve it.

  When we have sinful anger, we also need to confess that sin to God and receive the forgiveness that is already ours in Christ. Even those who do forgive from their hearts Biblically, often leave this part out and wonder why they still don't have peace.

  Another reason for anger, that I should mention here, is that which is a consequence of biological issues such as exhaustion, some medications, untreated clinical depression, and some illnesses. The solution to this is to get our body healthy as much as we possibly can.

Giving up our rights can also be a powerful weapon in defeating sinful anger. We share the Biblical basis for this in our counseling and ADT every week resulting in great freedom for individuals and marriages.

  If you have a habit of experiencing and expressing sinful anger, please get help! You are hurting and rejecting people you love and are offending many as well. Please call us for a free counseling consultation whether live or by Skype. 704-522-9026.

Live Free in Christ, 


Mark Maulding, President and Founder


www.GraceLifeInternational.com
All Content Copyright © 2013 Mark Maulding

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Dealing with Feeling Depressed


   The first time I remember feeling depressed was when I was playing in a high school basketball game and I looked into the stands only to discover a girl I was dating was with another guy. I didn't have a very good game that night for some reason!

   The last time I remember feeling depressed was about a month ago when my youngest son was dismissed from his Christian university because he was convinced God had led him to "sacrifice" his brilliant intellectual ability by not studying. Yea, I know that sounds strange to many people but it's a long story for another time.

   Depression is something everyone experiences at some point in their lives. Did you know that many of the great characters in the Bible experienced depression? Here are a few; The Prophet Elijah, Hannah, King David and the Apostle Paul. There are also some other well-known people who struggled with severe depressions such as; Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther, James Taylor and Charles Spurgeon.

   Sadly, most Christians don't want to talk about depression because they believe that if they trusted God enough, they would not be depressed. That is not necessarily true in all situations.

   If you identify with a majority of these symptoms, you are experiencing depression.

1.  Ongoing feelings of sadness or irritability.
2.  Loss of interest or pleasure in activities.
3.  Changes in weight or appetite.
4.  Changes in sleeping patterns.
5.  Feeling guilty or worthless.
6.  Inability to concentrate, remember things or make decisions.
7.  Fatigue or loss of energy.
8.  Restlessness or sluggishness.
9.  Thoughts of suicide.
10. Unexplained or heightened physical pains.
11. Intermittent or prolonged anxiety.

   I have at some point in my life experienced the different types of depression that I am about to list. Maybe you have too or you know someone who has. 1. Non-biological. 2. Biological.

Non-biological depression can be caused for a number of reasons such as difficult circumstances like a surprising illness, performing to measure up instead of resting in your righteousness in Christ, rejection, unforgiveness, unyielded rights, not understanding the gospel of grace, spiritual oppressions, prolonged disappointment, failure and more. At Grace Life International, God works through us each week to provide live and Skype counseling for people who are depressed. For more info, visit our web site at www.GraceLifeInternational.com or call us for a FREE consultation at 704-522-9026.

   How can you deal with non-biological depression? The best thing you can do is to resolve the spiritual conflicts within you - most often with good grace-based Biblical counseling.

Biological depression is such that counseling, prayer or setting your mind on Biblical truth will not alleviate it. As a doctor friend once told me, "You can't think you way out of this kind of depression." Some of the reasons for biological depression include illness which changes the body chemistry such as a stroke, some medications, drug or alcohol abuse, extreme fatigue, hormone imbalance, and heredity.

   What can help with biological depression? Thank God that we live in a time when there are both natural and traditional medications that can help people who have this kind of depression. See your doctor to discuss your options for this kind of treatment. And listen Christian - there is no need to feel guilty or ashamed if you need to take a natural or prescription medication for depression. Would you feel this way if you had to take thyroid medication? Of course not. So why feel guilty or ashamed about taking medication for biological depression?

   Most of all, pray for God to heal your depression and to guide you to the best counseling or treatment for you. 2 Corinthians 7:6 says, "But God, who comforts the depressed, comforted us in the coming of Titus." NASB

Live Free In Christ,



Mark Maulding, President and Founder

www.GraceLifeInternational.com
All Content Copyright © 2013 Mark Maulding

Friday, April 5, 2013

Dealing with Your Negative Feelings

    None of us like negative feelings including me!  But if you and I are honest, we all have more of them than we would like.  After asking for input from people on Facebook about what feelings they would like for me to write about, I am beginning a series called "Dealing with Your Negaive Feelings."  Each week we will tackle one negative feeling and how we need to deal with it to overcome it.
   If you want another good reason to deal with your negative feelings, read this excerpt from a recent medical study.

   "Dwelling on negative events can increase levels of inflammation in the body, a new Ohio University study finds.  Researchers discovered that when study participants were asked to ruminate on a stressful incident, their levels of C-reactive protein, a marker of tissue inflammation, rose.  The study is the first time to directly measure this effect in the body. 
   The study showed that those people who focused on a stressful event, the levels of the inflammatory marker continued to rise for at least one hour.  Compared to people who thought of more relaxing events, the marker returned to starting levels.
   More and more, chronic inflammation is being associated with various cardiovascular disorders such as heart disease, as well as cancer, dementia and autoimmune diseases."

   Our wise Father loves us and wants us to live free from negative thoughts.  Just look at what He writes to us in His love letter, the Bible. 

   "And now, dear brothers and sisters, let me say one more thing as I close this letter.  Fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right.  Think about things that are pure and lovely and admirable.  Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise."  Philippians 4:8

   I look forward to our journey together in the next few weeks as we look at "Dealing with Your Negative Feelings".   And please pass these on each week to family and friends you care about whether you receive this through GLI's e-devotion or my blog. 


Live Free In Christ, Mark Maulding, President and Founder www.GraceLifeInternational.com All Content Copyright © 2013 Mark Maulding